Interview With a Trans Man

 When did you first start to realize that you were a boy?

Answer: It was kinda odd to think of the first time it sorta...clicked? The earliest thing I remember was being in gym class in middle school and I remember I wanted to show off to the other girls. I dont think I really understood what trans was until high school and had a friend who was nonbinary tell me about it.

Who was the first person you came out to, and how did they react?

Answer: Mom. It was… kinda difficult to find the words to tell her and it was scary. She was supportive of course but it was such a big step for me that it ended up being the cascade effect that led to so many people in my life today.

How has your family reacted to your truth?

Answer: My siblings accept and love me. Mom has always been kickass so no trouble there. I think there are some that still don't fully grasp it but the postive side has far out weighed the negative.

What has been the biggest challenge so far?

Answer: Honestly? Being in a small town like this one. It's got nice people sure but the job options and places that are acceptable for me to work? Few and far between. For me it's been hard because I cannot find myself in a place that doesn't care about my appearance or that I can come across as a bit… Not aggressive but intimidating? That part is from the autism and it shines through.

Has anyone tried to stop you from going into a men’s room?

Answer: Once. My father's ex. She holds the belief that if you don't have the surgery or the equipment than you aren't a real man.

You live in a conservative state. Do you fear for your safety?

Answer: Not in the traditional sense. It's tough don't get me wrong, there are people out there they would absolutely love to hurt me or see me in prison or worse. Thankfully even a small town like this it's relatively safe to be even if it does stifle some aspects of my life.

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